I never thought I would ever be one of those brides that suffers from the Post Wedding Blues! Unbelievable, how could I do this to myself? I am stronger than this! What is it? Is it the weather? There has to be a reason why I feel this way.
I got engaged December 2008 and Married last October 9th. Time certainly flew by, stressful with a side of time consuming, but all for the greater good. Always planning, having events to go to, outfits to buy, gifts to give and receive, dances to learn, visits from my Dad who lives in Hawaii, errands to run, Moroccan tea glasses to find, wine to taste, pounds to loose, WEDDING WEDDING WEDDING!! Now, I am not that type of person who likes to be the center of attention, yes I know you have probably heard that before… To be quite honest, when friends would ask how the wedding planning was going I would constantly find myself changing the subject asking more about what was going on with them.
Prior to the wedding my mom reminded me to have fun with the planning, don’t get stressed, and I tried my hardest to do so. I had a great support team. At times there were obstacles to overcome, personalities to succumb to, but somehow made it through with hardly any scars. It was an exciting time to say the least, and in the end truly the best day of my life. No, the best time of my life. Every detail we had worked so hard on, was executed to the fullest and went far beyond my expectations.
Now I should tell you that this is my profession. I am Wedding Planner at the Verandas in Manhattan Beach. Almost every weekend I am able to witness other brides have the most wonderful day of their lifetime, and the best advice I received from my sweet brides was to breathe, and enjoy every moment of the day because it goes by fast. Now, I know this and I have always told my brides that it goes by so quickly, but finally I could relate to them. I was in their Christian Louboutins (well actually mine). I made sure to tell myself to remember every moment and so I did. I remember every moment from December 24th to October 26th (back from the honeymoon and back to reality). I think my blues have to do with all of the above. No more wedding planning, that it’s over, the excitement, the stress, the wedding is over.
It’s really okay to feel this way. Somehow you do get caught up in it, but it’s fun. The good the bad and the ugly, it’s all fun. While discussing this with our founder, Louise Lohman, she told me to take this opportunity to express my post wedding blues. She suggested that a majority of our brides feel this way, and really, what makes me any different? I think that just writing (and talking) about these blues has already helped me realize that these feelings are normal. This has been one of the most special times in my life, and that I am very fortunate.
As I take a sigh of relief, I have released myself from my post wedding blues. The wedding day was one of my most precious memories. Now I look forward to passing on that experience to my future brides. To help my fellow brides through the trials and tribulations of this thing called Wedding, pre and post. That through it all you have to stay true to who you are and what you believe. Make sure to savor every moment and focus on the good, and not to focus on perfection, nothing is perfect. That in the end, you can sit look at your pictures and realize that this is only the beginning.
Oh, I feel as though I also need to warn you. Once the wedding is over, and when you run into those friends who asked “when’s the wedding, how’s the wedding planning going?” Be prepared for the “When are you going to have a baby” questions…
